Over a year ago, I wrote “Woah, Man”
A piece inspired by the urge to break down the stigmas surrounding women’s behavior and what is deemed “lady-like” by society
…and the unattainable expectations of how society and social media believe that we should live our lives as maternally as possible
I’m writing part two today because there’s more.
I wasn’t done.
As women, we have to fight against a lot of social construct
A lot of “but as a woman” type standards and such
On a daily basis
So take me, for example.
I’m a young woman
A single young woman
A woman with ambition and drive
A woman with the foundation and tools to set herself up for success
When I utter the words “I don’t want children”
I have to spit them out with caution
I never get the reaction that I’d think I am allowed to even ask for
I often get the “sentence finisher” so when I say I don’t want kids – they cut me off and finish my sentence with a “yet.”
Oh, or the “gasper” so when I say I don’t want kids – they take a step back and let out an “oh my God, are you sure about that?” reaction.
Oh wait..wait…there’s also the “psychic/fortune teller” so when I say I don’t want kids – they respond with “you say that now, wait until you find love”
Because you know, if you didn’t want something by yourself, a man’s pressure and persuasive being can make you want things you never even dreamed about…
I think I might’ve come across the perfect response just one time. So I held on to that.
It went a little something like this:
Me: No, I don’t want to have kids. Never have.
Her: Oh, really? I never knew that about you.
Me: Yup. Just not something I’ve ever naturally wanted, never has been. It just doesn’t appeal to me, and I mean…especially not right now. I’d rather focus on my career goals, you know?
Her: Wow, that’s amazing. That you know that. Don’t let any man or person talk you out of that. I know people, selfish people, that probably didn’t need or want to have kids but…well.
Me: Yea…hmph, thanks! *Smiles*
To Be Continued.